Relational Patterns
1.
Supportive
and Defensive Climates
Defensive
Climate
Defensive
climate – Composed of a pattern of closedness and defensiveness.
People feel defensive when they feel threatened during
communication or perceive that they are under attack.
Supportive Climate
Supportive climate -
Composed of a pattern of openness and supportiveness.
People are
supportive when they are being provisional demonstrates a respect for other
people's opinions and thus for them, as well to entertain ideas other than your
own.
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These both types of relational patterns are used
during interpersonal communication. This depends on how we face a communication
problem and what kind of communication that should we use to solve the problem.
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Example: When a kid is being told by their mom that
their room is too messy. That kid could respond in a very rude way or keep
defending theirselves (who is clearly wrong),that action is called Defensive
Climate. But if he tries to work out on how to make things straight,this
action is called Supportive Climate.
2. Dependencies and Counterdependencies
Dependencies
A
person or individual who has a tendency to dependent and rely on others advice,
guidance, or support. Then they agree in whatever the other says or does.
Counterdependencies
The counterdependent
is the opposite of the dependent.
A person is not being
dependent or needed support on the others, but independent and he or she is
usually refuse the opinion and assistance of others.
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The both of it is general patterns of personal issues
and life experiences that can lead to personal psychological characteristics of
an individual.
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Example: When a person feels like they’re a minority
or a shy person,they are called Dependencies,On the other way,people who
never believes/always rejects other people’s opinion because of traumatic
childhood experience or bad early education that causes that person to be
careless about their surroundings and become self closure is called Counterdependencies.
3. Progressive and Regressive Spirals
Progressive
When
the actions and reactions of individuals in relationship are consistent with
their goals and needs, the relationship progresses with continual increases in
the need level of harmony and satisfaction. the message processing leads to the
positive in their experience.
Regressive Spirals
The
relationship growing with no harmony and satisfaction. This pattern of relation
leads to the negative situation that increasing discomfort, distance,
frustation for everyone involved.
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These patterns are the
communication between the two of individuals in relation that can determine
what will be achieved and the success or failure of something of their goal. Which one partner's behavior intensifies that of the other.
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Example: It will be progressive when one
partner's behavior leads to increasing levels of satisfaction for the other.
Then it will be regressive, where one partner's communication leads to
increasing dissatisfaction.
Factors That Influence The Pattern of Relation
1.
Stage of Relationship and Context
Naturally,
people meeting each other for the first time interact in a different manner
than people who have lived together for several years.
2. Interpersonal Needs and Style
involved
represent other influences on communication within relationships. we each
develop our own spesific needs relative to control, affection, and inclusion as
we do in other areas. interpersonal style also plays a key role in shaping the
communication patterns emerge relationship. style deal with their thoughts and
feelings in a forthright.
3.
Power
The
power also affects the interpersonal relation, when one individual have a
higher power than their partner. The power could be intelligence, money, or
strength within the meaning of maturity.
4.
Conflict
An
incompatibility of interest between two or more people giving rise to struggles
between them.
The Case
Finding Nemo Movie
http://www.dan-dare.org/FreeFun/Games/CartoonsMoviesTV/FindingNemo.htm
The film then moves on to Nemo's first day of school. Nemo has a tiny right fin, due to a minor injury to his egg from the barracuda attack, which limits his swimming ability. After Marlin embarrasses Nemo during a school field trip, Nemo disobeys his father and sneaks away from the reef towards a boat, resulting in him being captured by scuba divers.
Relational
Patterns :
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Counterdependencies
After
the barracuda attack we see what Marlin has become the epitome of
overprotective parenting. He's trying to ensure that “nothing ever happens to
Nemo”. No matter how others tell him that Nemo would be fine in the school.
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Defensive
The over protective parenting of Marlin and how he talked with Nemo, Nemo
felt humiliated and made to act defensively.
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Regressive Spirals
How
Marlin are too protective causes the problems grow more complex and it leads to negative situation that made Nemo feels discomfort and disobey
his father.
Factors
that influece the patterns :
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Interpersonal Needs and Style
Marlin may try to fill
safety needs for Nemo by controlling and over protecting against his desire for
adventure, although Nemo’s need for safety may not be as strong has his needs
for recognition that he could do anything like a normal fish.
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Power
Because the relationship between them. As a father, Marlin was
controlling and very protective of Nemo.
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Conflict
An incompatibility needs between Marlin and Nemo giving rise the
conflict between them made Nemo disobeys his father and be captured by scuba
divers.
